Who have you started to look like that you judge yourself for?

Who have you started to look like that you judge yourself for?

Is it a parent, a relative, or a sibling?

Do you judge yourself for looking like them and don’t seem to be able to change it?

Have you ever wondered why some people find it so easy to lose weight while other’s don’t?

Have you ever wondered why diets and body sculpting programs do not work for you?

If this is you, then read on.

Your body is an expression of lot of things. The shape and size you are, is not always because of what you eat, or because of some disease you have. It is way more complex and intricate than that, that normal weight loss programs are not capable of telling you about.

Your body is a reflection of your relationships, your past, the trauma or the abuse you have gone through, and many more things, which have become a part of your subconscious programming. No wonder diets and exercises don’t work for you, or you never seem to be able to sustain the change.

What I am suggesting to you is not a one stop solution or a magic pill. It is a deep transformation that will change the way you interact with your body, see your body.

To share a personal experience, I started a weight loss diet with a weight management consultant.  I am not a person who does very well with schedules, and restrictions. To her credit, my consultant is a very flexible person and took my lifestyle, food preferences into account. She also was aware that I would fight her tooth and nail in ‘following’ a diet. Thankfully she is not on my social media accounts, for which I can come clean that I do not follow the diet.

Having said that, listening to her, has made me realise how much I enjoy the foods I never thought I will enjoy. I was a person who could never resist fried food, for instance. Last night when I was out with a friend, for the first time in my life, I did not reach for the fried stuff.

I, in fact told the restaurant that I found parts of the food too greasy.

This could have never been me. I am always the one to reach for the fruitiest cocktail, and fried oily things. Last night I surprised myself. I surprised myself in finding out that I am not the person I thought I was.

I do enjoy the blend of flavours, I do love the hedonism of food, I do like the lightness in my body after a great meal.

I have stopped eating to feel good. I have stopped making food about feeling satisfied. Food is not what will give me what I cannot be for myself.

Does this sound dangerously similar to your relationships?

I did not know about my relationship with food, till I was willing to divorce many aspects of it, that I did not even know I was doing.

Food is just one aspect. There is movement, sex, clothes we wear, our image of ourselves; the list goes on and on.

What if deep transformation begins with a degree of vulnerability and kindness for yourself. Even if you are the only one capable of being it.

Dr. Anindita Chakraborty is a physician with years of experience in clinical practice. She is now a transformation coach who uses her medical knowledge and experience with different transformation techniques to guide her clients through deep, sustainable and pragmatic transformation.